Dating Guide for Seniors
Mentality
We must learn to approach someone we have never met with a relaxed attitude, because we must know that the first time we meet is to show the other person our process, then we must treat the other person as if we were meeting an ordinary friend. (Because the meeting is too purposeful, the effect of the meeting will not be good) You are a stranger before and after the meeting, so don’t be too concerned about gains and losses. The purpose of meeting is to show yourself and get to know each other.
Appearance
There is a word in psychology called primacy effect. We will never have a second first impression. The first impression is made within a few seconds of meeting. So first impression is very important. The overall impression is that it is clean and tidy, as long as it is generous and decent, the hair should not be greasy or dandruff, and the shoes and socks are well matched. If the perfume is not too strong, it should not be sprayed too strongly. For example: men should wear more stable clothes, and girls should wear skirts or cooler clothes.
Topics Suitable for Chatting When Meeting for the First Time
1. Simple Greetings:
How long did it take you to get here? The weather is a bit hot today, thank you for taking this trip.
2. Interests and Hobbies:
Hobbies are an open-ended topic. Avoid asking the other person to answer yes or no.
For Example:
Do you like traveling? (The other party can only answer whether you like it or not, and the topic may be over. We can expand the topic to chat.)
If you travel, where would you prefer to go?
Do you like natural scenery or cultural landscape?
What’s your favorite place you’ve ever visited? Why?
Can I ask you for advice next time if I go to this place?
(Expand the topic that originally only answered whether you like or dislike it to chat and learn more about the other person. At the same time, you can also make the topic relevant to the two of you.)
3. Living Habits:
Food, exercise, daily routine, etc. can all be discussed. It mainly depends on the atmosphere of the chat and the response of the other party. If the other party is only moderately interested in the topic, we can change the topic at any time. If the other party is interested in the topic, you can start the conversation more. When you meet for the first time, it doesn’t matter what you talk about. The whole point is to make the other person feel comfortable.
4. Hometown or Current City:
Famous scenic spots or delicacies in your hometown (for example, you can ask the other person if you have been there? Ask the other person if you have eaten the delicacies in your hometown? Talking about food can help you understand the other person’s taste preferences. If you have a dinner date next time, you don’t need to ask the other person again. What kind of food do you like? When introducing the food in your hometown, you can also say: I know there are some good ones in this city. Can I take you to try them next time?)
5. Past Work Situation:
Just briefly introduce the industry (if the other party is relatively professional and we have not covered it yet, you can also say generously, “I have not yet been involved in this area of professional knowledge, but after listening to your advice today The introduction, I think is quite interesting, I will learn more about it in private, and I can ask you for advice next time I have a chance.”)
6. Personal Experience:
Avoid cross-examination chatting. Don’t just talk to yourself and don’t give the other party a chance to speak.
Not Suitable Topics for Chatting When Meeting for the First Time
1. Relationships: Try not to talk about your previous relationship, and if you do talk about it, just pass it by.
2. Income: Try not to talk about money when you first meet, otherwise you will leave a bad first impression on the other person.
3. Negative Energy: When we meet for the first time, we should talk about happy topics and not complain too much, otherwise we will leave a bad impression on the other party.
Avoid topics such as politics, religion, race, and social conflicts.
Tips for Extra Points:
1. Don’t be late.
2. Keep smiling when you meet and communicate. When the other party is expressing, you can nod appropriately to show recognition of the other party. Praise and praise the other party more (praise the other party must be supported by details.)
3. After the date, you can offer to send the lady off, but only downstairs.
Kind Tips:
1. You can shake hands and hug during the meeting, but don’t do anything else too quickly.
2. Avoid financial transactions.
3. Optimum appointment time: generally within 60 minutes outdoors or in a coffee shop. (Even if the conversation is very interesting, it is not recommended to finish the conversation at once. You can leave the unfinished topics for the next interaction.)
4. With an appreciative eye, discover 2 to 4 strengths in the other person, your own strengths, and what you can do better. After the appointment, make a targeted summary.
5. Send out invitations to meet again in your life as soon as possible and get to know each other better.
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